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Adoption or Abortion
Decision of a Lifetime
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Decisions ... some are small and
some are very big. Some don’t affect your life at all . Others have consequences you
must deal with the rest of your life.
If you are pregnant and unmarried, you are faced with a big decision. “What am I
going to do with the baby inside of me?” There are several options available, two of
which are Adoption or Abortion. Let us compare the answers to questions regarding these
two choices. In some ways the answers are very similar, but the difference is a matter of
life and death.
If You Adopt...
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If You Abort...
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You will be free to
pursue your goals and dreams that you had before you were pregnant.
You will not have to care for a baby before you are ready.
You will not have the financial burden of caring for a child.
You will not have to worry about finding a sitter, missing out on the fun with your
friends and being tied down.
When you think of your baby, you will think of him or her as happy and loved by a mommy
and daddy.
You will have precious memories of your baby’s face, fingers, toes, eyes and smile.
You will know you gave the greatest gift of all - a child, to a couple whose hope and
dream was a baby to love. |
You will be free to
pursue your goals and dreams that you had before you were pregnant.
You will not have to care for a baby before you are ready.
You will not have the financial burden of caring for a child.
You will not have to worry about finding a sitter, missing out on the fun with your
friends and being tied down.
There is no baby to think of; no smile, no little fingers or toes to remember. You have
only the memory that you ended your baby’s life. Instead of feeling good about how
your pregnancy ended, you may feel sad and empty. But you can never go back and give that
child life! The back of this card has questions and answers about adoption. Please take a
moment to read them before you make the most important decision of your
life. Decisions ...
some are small and some are very big. Some don’t affect your life at all . Others
have consequences you must deal with the rest of your life. |
 My name is
Tina. When I was 17 I got pregnant. I was really upset and confused. I thought about
abortion for a minute - it would have been so easy. But, I knew I couldn’t do that to
my baby so I decided on adoption. It wasn’t easy but it was the right thing to do.
That was many years ago. My “baby” is now 15. I have no
regrets. I know she is loved and happy. If you are pregnant, don’t just say
“no” to adoption. Think about it. It could be the best thing for you AND your
baby. You may have some questions about adoption. I’ll try to answer them.
Can I choose the family? Yes. It’s not like it used to be when everything was
secretive. Most agencies will give you letters with photos telling you all about the
couple. Many agencies also let you meet and interview prospective parents.
Can I have contact with my baby after the adoption? It depends on what you want. The
agency will match you with couples who want the same degree of contact as you do. There
could be visits after the adoption, photos and letters, phone contact - whatever you and
the adoptive couple are comfortable with. Though I haven’t seen her, I have exchanged
letters with Catherine for the past 15 years. She starts her letters with, “Dear
Birth Mommy...”
Will my child feel abandoned? A good idea is to write a letter or send something special
you made or bought. If you write, you can tell your child that you loved her so much you
gave her life and a mommy and daddy. These assurances will make your baby feel special,
not abandoned. When Catherine’s adoptive parents came to pick her up, she wore a
T-shirt I had made that said, “I love my mommy and daddy.”
What if the father doesn’t want the adoption? The birth father’s rights are the
same as yours. If you go through an agency they are used to working with fathers in this
situation.
How can I be sure my child will be well cared for? Any couple who adopts a child must be
approved by the agency. A complete background check and home study is done on them.
Are you still happy with your decision? Yes! It was hard, mostly at first. But, as time
went on and I knew she was happy and loved by a mommy and daddy, I felt better. I was able
to go to college, marry and have children of my own. I know abortion seems easy, but it is
also final. I am so thankful I chose life for Catherine and so are her adoptive parents!
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